Hot sex in a 20-year monogamous relationship. Impossible, right? 

I thought so too, until everything changed in December 2020 when my spouse and I started the Sure Thing weekly practice. Instead of feeling like a victim to our sexual appetite or lack thereof, I now feel empowered. 

Whether you’re single or in a relationship, if you’re frustrated with your sex life, want more sensual satisfaction, and have yet to discover a way to reliably get it — a Sure Thing practice is for you.

If you’re feeling stressed out, unfulfilled, or numbed out—like you’re just going through the motions—and you want a catalyst to reconnect you with that spark of life you know is inside of you, a Sure Thing practice is for you.

Not a fix.
Not a trick.
Not another thing to “work on.”

But a practice. A rhythm. A steady, gentle invitation back to yourself.

Not a crash course in “spicing things up.”
Rather, a reliable, personalized allure to feel alive again.

You don’t need to feel ready to begin.
You just need to be willing to remember there’s more.

It’s not about performing or pretending.
It’s about re-learning how to be in your body.
Reclaiming your desires—without shame.
This practice offers a place to begin again.

Because the truth is
Love, especially self-love, doesn’t always roar.

Sometimes, it’s a whisper we have to choose to turn toward.
You don’t need more effort.
You only need intention.

Elana Auerbach is a lover, mother, mentor, activist, priestess, and creatrix of The Sure Thing. She’s writing the book because she wants everyone to have access to this life altering practice. The Sure Thing will be out on February 3, 2026.

Elana can be reached here.